I can't say I have noticed people being singled out - its usually me getting shot down early because i have put myself in a position making me a target.
I would support not having names (@painless - I did not know it was you until I got really close after spotting your icon - I had height and chased a red dot down). I may not have spotted you if not for the icon it has to be said.
I would support doing away with icons above planes, as Sid says it does give the game away.
I would plead for my plane only on the maps as I am useless at navigation.
To this end I am going to do what is required from my part to remove in-game icons, but it does need all of us to buy into it. (that is the buy in without spending money of course)