Yep I can pick-up dots fairly well, but have trouble identifying friend or foe until I'm very close (some day I'll upgrade from a laptop with 14" screen) or they start shooting at me. Plus as you said, anyone is usually at a disadvantage flying solo & I didn't immediately recognise anyone to try buddy-up with when I got on last evening.
Oh well, that's also why my pilot is a skeleton. Kill me all you want, but I will keep coming back for more. Enjoy the target practice.