Ok chaps, panic over. After a nice quiet evening in on my own (wife working, kids at guides) I have now re-programmed it.
When I actually looked at it it was not that bad after all. The buttons are all marked, the only thing I had to work out was which hat was 1, 2 and 3. having done that (#3 on the throttle, #2 is top left of the joystick and #1 is in the middle of the joystick)
The only thing I have had to do different is the one for centering track ir.
Tir did not seem to recognise the hat #2 pushed forward, so i have now got "I" as tir centre and mapped that to the hat.
If anyone wants any help I can now say been there, done that..............
Thanks for all the feed back by the way guys,
Cheers
Friar