Toad,
My heart goes out to you. My Dad just had another "attack" and ended up in the hospital. Luckily they fixed him up and he is now back home. Dealing with family health issues are never fun and although with my Dad who is 87, health issues were not unexpected. My wife, on the other hand, has really changed my perspective and what I thought retirement would be.
All the best Toad and I wish you much good will.
Lui