Well, the flight stick was made difficult by the tutorial video. In hindsight should have watched at least 3 times, made notes of all the changes that came up in the update text windows, watched 3 more times and then followed the video!
Shame about the missing connector, flaps will have to wait. As they are primarily associated with landing, not really required.
don’t think I can bring myself to plug them in, shorted wired crossed connections, where the alcohol.